Victoria Ann Spencer-Kibble - Clinical Rapid Hypnotherapist, Transformational Conversational Therapist, Advanced Breathwork Specialist
Bio
I'm Victoria Ann Spencer-Kibble of VASK Therapy, and I am an ex-Flight Supervisor, now returning to flying, and I am also trained as a Clinical Rapid Hypnotherapist, Transformational Conversational Therapist, and Advanced Breathwork Specialist. I flew during the 9/11 era, so there's not much I haven't seen, heard, or dealt with. There are lots of tools & techniques to help you, depending on your level of anxiety, sometimes unresolved stress and/or trauma will need to be addressed to overcome the emotional root cause of your fear of flying permanently.
You need to go subconsciously to find the real reason for your stress and/or trauma, because that’s where you created the fear and keep it unknowingly filed.
Use the different therapies in which I am trained, you will probably come across emotional memories, events, and forgotten times that formed your first belief about your fear of flying.
Why do you feel stuck or trapped, wanting to escape?
Why do you worry as soon as you book your well-deserved holiday and allow the anticipatory anxiety to creep in?
Does waiting at the airport fill you with dread?
What makes you feel so unsafe in a smaller aircraft compared to a larger, familiar aircraft to you?
Do you feel you can't trust the Cabin Crew with the responsibility of your life onboard if something bad was to happen, out of the blue? Out of nowhere?
Does the speed of take-off terrify you? You hate that dropping sensation as the aircraft lifts off? But don't know why?
How come you feel you are responsible for being in control, yet you feel so out of control?
Who, When, Where, What, or How have you been made to feel like this, and it is simply presenting itself as the symptom that is, Aerophobia, Aviophobia?
Or is it that once those cabin crew doors are closed and armed, you feel doom and start to freak out and panic?
And we haven't even mentioned turbulence yet because that ties your stomach in knots with the fear of the unknown, and God forbid if you have a full-blown panic attack that will leave you feeling embarrassed and that intense fear of failure because you have let everyone down, your family, your friends and most of all yourself?
Yet you'll wait in silence until the week before your flight, drinking to sleep, popping pills to stop the overthinking, pretending to be ok when everyone else is excited, but you are a bag of nerves.
All our beliefs are formed before the age of 8 years. (I was in Special Educational Needs teaching after I was widowed young, which ended my flying career, so I understand the childlike subconscious very well.) Therefore, I understand how our young emotional mind holds all our answers, not consciously, logically, but emotionally and subconsciously. It can start with a memory of a book, a film, an off-the-cuff comment, a bullying incident, a sibling argument, really…the list is endless. You can then reframe your fear of flying belief... subconsciously. The conscious mind (logical mind) won't reframe a subconscious mind (emotional mind) belief, habit of thought, or overthinking. But you absolutely can get over your Fear of Flying. Warmest of wishes, V✨️
Victoria Ann Spencer-KibbleCertified Therapist
Beat Flight Anxiety and Holiday Stress and Fly Easy.
Experience
I'm Victoria Ann Spencer-Kibble of VASK Therapy, and I am an ex-Flight Supervisor, now returning to flying, and I am also trained as a Clinical Rapid Hypnotherapist, Transformational Conversational Therapist, and Advanced Breathwork Specialist. 9/11 was the era that changed the Aviation world, and I was Cabin Crew member during that period for a British Airline. I remember that day, like it was yesterday, I shall never forget it, and we will never forget those who lost their lives that day. That’s exactly why we should continue flying.
For some Cabin Crew, they were scared to fly again, but for me, I refused to let it beat me. I flew for seven consecutive days with horrendous queues, long waiting times, scared, anxious, nervous, and panic-stricken passengers alongside extremely frightened Crew.
But we trust our training. It doesn't matter what airline, what aircraft, we are all governed by the same Civil Aviation Authority (CAA). All our knowledge has to adhere to the same Safety and Emergency Procedures (S.E.P.) to be allowed to fly, to hold an Air Operator Certificate. (AOC)
I stayed with the same Airline from 1996 -2009 when, unexpectedly and tragically, my first husband died terribly young. He was leading and filming an underwater expedition on the Britannic, the larger sister ship to the Titanic, which he also dived twice. When he died, I then had to stand down from my Flight Supervisor position, third in command after the Captain, then First Officer, to look after my two bereaved children, who were just three and eight years old when their Daddy passed away.
I knew my bereaved children needed me, so I retrained in teaching so I could be around for my children, specialising in a 1-2-1 Special Educational Needs form of teaching, which I loved. But flying still pulled at my 'wings' and after the stress and deep trauma of losing my husband, I became poorly myself, catching Epiglottitis, a deadly virus that kills most adults who catch it. I was intubated and in a coma for 11 days and suffered 8 seizures in 1 hour when they tried to allow me to breathe on my own. My bereaved children nearly lost both parents within 18 months...It doesn't bear thinking about!
Hence, I found Rapid Hypnotherapy, which changed my world, so much so, I trained in it and haven't looked back. I have upskilled in many modalities, including Transformational Conversational Therapy and 2 modalities in Breathwork.
I recognise that there are 3 categories to the fear of flying. Knowledge, Events or Trauma/Stress. Some anxious passengers can overcome their fear by absorbing facts so they feel safe and in control. Other nervous passengers remember events, like 9/11, and need those memories reframed so they can fly again. Then there is the third category where it is trauma/stress and this is the one I truly love helping with as the fearful flyer needs to go deep in the subconscious mind where they need to let go of that feeling of being stuck, trapped and wanting to escape because logically they don’t know where the thoughts and feelings that are holding them back come from. I call them invisible illnesses as they seem to appear alongside other diseases like Autoimmune Diseases, pregnancies, mental Health issues, chronic stress, addictions, lack of sleep, emotional eating, Menopause, and many others. Which I happily help with as I am post-menopausal and I have an Autoimmune Disease, called Hashimoto’s Disease, presenting as an Underactive Thyroid. Please remember your symptom is a dis-ease that has got your attention, so by letting go of one stress, anxiety, or fear, you can find others disappear too.
Hence, using my flying experience and my different modalities of therapies, I can blend a unique technique to overcome your fear of flying or any other anxiety or stress so you can enjoy those well-deserved holidays without any invisible illnesses holding you back.
Please do not stay stuck or trapped, feeling out of control or unsafe, unable to trust. We get one life, live it. Let me gift you the joy of flying because my joy of flying was taken away from me when I was Widowed young.
You can then reframe your fear of flying belief... subconsciously. The conscious mind (logical mind) won't reframe a subconscious mind (emotional mind) belief, habit of thought, or overthinking. But you absolutely can get over your Fear of Flying.
Warmest of wishes, V✨️
Qualifications
Rapid Transformational Therapy Practitioner Rapid Transformational Therapist Certified Hypnotherapist Clinical Hypnotherapist XPT Performance Breathing Coach Counselling & Psychotherapy Level 2 Breathwork Coach